Secondly, we need to practice mindfulness (or meditation). By simply becoming mindful for a few seconds during the day, we can go a long way in calming our busy minds. Ten seconds is all it takes! Many times, any time, anywhere. And we can use anything we like as the object of our meditation – something we see, our breath, a sound, a taste, something we feel in our bodies, a smell, anything. We can even use a thought as an object for a short moment of stillness but that may take a bit more practice. How easy is it to watch a leaf on a tree for a few seconds without giving it some mental label? Or observing the taste of a chocolate in our mouth and notice how it melts? The first step in starting mindfulness practice is simply to direct the mind somewhere and hold it there for a few seconds.
Thirdly we need to be aware of our daily conduct. And this can be evaluated on three levels: our thoughts, speech and actions. We need to be mindful of behaving the right way on all three levels. Negative thoughts will affect us negatively. Change them when they come and deal with negativity swiftly. It’s like a bad visitor you need to get out the house quickly. And when it comes to speech and actions – it you can help or be of positive assistance, at least refrain from harming and damaging others. This also applies to gossip.
Finally, the most important thing to understand is that it takes practice. Most of us are very aware of our physical bodies – we want to loose weight, get fit and be healthier. And if we choose to run a race, we will do some training correct? We need to apply that same physical concern and practice to our mental health. Unless we train our minds, we cannot expect to be in control of our feelings. And it all starts with a few seconds, may times, any time, anywhere.